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WHEN YOUR CHILD HAS A “PROBLEM TEACHER”

WHEN YOUR CHILD HAS A “PROBLEM TEACHER”

WHEN YOUR CHILD HAS A “PROBLEM TEACHER”

What do you do if your child complains that a teacher:

sets unreasonably high standards?

is a dictator in the classroom?

plays favorites?

singles your child out for ridicule?

While your first impulse may be to give that teacher a piece of your mind, remember there are two sides to every story. Most child-teacher conflicts are due to resolvable issues.

Your child’s complaints may simply be due to a bad day that will be forgotten next morning. Listen, interject empathetic comments (“That must have been frustrating”), but don’t add fuel to the fire by agreeing that the teacher is a jerk. On the other hand, don’t put your child on the defensive by taking the teacher’s side. After initial anger subsides, you can provide gentle guidance in the form of “What might you do next time?” questions.

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If complaints about a teacher become frequent:

Pinpoint the Key Problem

Persistent grumbling may simply be a bad habit: note that if you complain about your boss, your children will assume that knocking authority figures behind their backs is normal. Try initiating daily conversations on “What did you like about school/work today?” and see if that reduces complaints.

If you suspect the problem is more serious, first get the facts as objectively as possible, then decide whether you need to personally talk with the teacher. If the latter:

Listen, Don’t Lecture

However unfair you think the teacher has been, going in swinging will make things worse. Explain your family’s concerns objectively in “I” and “we” statements (no accusations!), then ask the teacher for her side of the story. And then hear her out; do not argue or correct until it’s your turn to speak again.

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If you show empathy for the teacher, offer helpful suggestions rather than demands, and perhaps schedule a follow-up meeting to evaluate progress, things will improve ninety percent of the time. However, if you find yourself dealing with a stubborn individual, and the classroom situation only seems to get worse:

Consider Further Options

If the teacher refuses to consider anyone else’s side, you (and your child) have three options:

The “this too shall pass” approach. Often, the best solution is simply to stick out the term: the next teacher should be an improvement. Keep encouraging your child to practice patience, self-confidence, and self-care.

The “irreconcilable differences” approach: changing classes, or even schools. This is best reserved for situations that are adversely affecting your child’s overall performance and self-image; you don’t want to imply that avoiding challenging circumstances is the best approach to life.

The “desperate times” approach: taking it to court. This is a last-resort option, to be implemented only where literal abuse is involved and the school administration refuses to take action. In such a case, first remove your child from the dangerous situation (keeping him home from school if necessary).

Remember that such cases are the extreme exception, so don’t panic the first time your child complains about a “tough teacher.” Concentrate on approaching the situation objectively and reasonably, not only to resolve the immediate problem, but to teach your child how to settle conflicts—that life lesson will prove valuable long after this year’s class is a distant memory!

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Richmond, TX 77469
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