COPING WITH A CHILD’S PHYSICAL DISABILITY Let’s face it, parenting is a challenging job. But some parents have extra challenges due to their children’s special challenges. A child is unable to walk, or has other paralysis issues. A child has low or no vision. A child has hearing and/or speaking impairments. A child has diabetes, epilepsy, or another chronic illness that limits everyday … [Read more...] about COPING WITH A CHILD’S PHYSICAL DISABILITY
LEARNING TO WORK WITH WEAKNESSES Most people waste considerable energy fighting their imperfections, while wasting opportunities to develop their strengths. Some all but destroy themselves trying to squeeze into a “talent and success” mold they were never intended to fit. As a teacher or parent, you can help children escape this trap by showing them how to find, and make the best of, what … [Read more...] about LEARNING TO WORK WITH WEAKNESSES
FIX PROBLEMS, NOT PEOPLE Does your family have problems you can’t seem to get rid of? Are attempts to solve those problems shot through with such statements as these? If that sounds like you, your family has at least one problem more than you think—and that problem is your attitude. Why Trying to “Fix” People Makes Things Worse “If I could only get him to change his habits, everything … [Read more...] about FIX PROBLEMS, NOT PEOPLE
ONE FAMILY MEMBER’S PROBLEM IS EVERYONE’S PROBLEM Every therapist has stories of households struggling with debt/legal problems/constant fighting/you name it, and of heads and co-heads of those households who demand the therapist “fix” the one family member who’s the cause of it all, the one who: Then, when the therapist asks how the rest of the household might be enabling the problem, the … [Read more...] about ONE FAMILY MEMBER’S PROBLEM IS EVERYONE’S PROBLEM
DOES YOUR FAMILY HAVE SCAPEGOAT SYNDROME? Often, the family “black sheep” is really a “scapegoat,” a convenient excuse for other family members to deny their roles in various problems. The “scapegoat” may have an obvious problem such as drug addiction or chronic truancy. Or s/he may just have had the bad luck to be born at an inconvenient time, or to look like a hated relative. Regardless … [Read more...] about DOES YOUR FAMILY HAVE SCAPEGOAT SYNDROME?